Last week I wrote about the 105 weeks build-up to my 52nd birthday. I wrote about my journey of diving into my own deepest, darkest parts to uncover the bits that needed attention and healing.

Excerpt: Gathering all the pieces of who we are back to ourselves, calling in the energy that we have scattered out there through our lives and reclaiming ourselves in full - this is radical Self-Love. This is the work. From this place, we can know what we need to fill our own tank so that we can live love and be the change we want to see.

Why is this work so important? Why am I passionate about starting, fuelling, and recruiting a Self-Love Revolution?

In a world that glorifies hustle culture, external validation, and endless achievement, we tend to neglect the most important relationships we will ever have—the relationship with ourselves. With all the marketing about how we should be living, how we should be looking and how much we should be earning, there is a constant invitation to self-judgement and self-criticism. The spiral of ‘not XXX enough’ is a powerful vortex into a lonely state of desperation, fuelled by low self-esteem.

The idea of self-love has been misrepresented as vanity and selfishness, but this is a misunderstanding of what authentic self-love is, and who made selfishness a bad thing, anyway?

Life is a journey and the only guaranteed companion is yourself, so selfishness in this context isn’t bad – it is nourishment. Self-love is the foundation of a healthy, fulfilling life, and it’s time to make it a priority. Time to make our true authentic selves a priority.

As The Self-Love Revolutionary, my mission is to share how radical, revolutionary self-love is not only necessary but fully transformative. This revolution isn’t just a feel-good trend—it’s a movement that can change the way we all live, lead, and experience life. I believe, this is how we change the world!

What Is Self-Love, Really?

Self-love isn’t about being perfect or thinking you’re better than others. It’s about treating yourself with the same kindness, compassion, and respect that you would extend to a loved one. It’s the act of nurturing your own emotional, mental, physical and spiritual well-being—without the need for external validation.

At its core, self-love means accepting who you are, flaws and all, and making choices that honour your needs and desires. It’s about showing up for yourself, even on the days when it feels hard to do so. This requires deep self-knowledge. Getting to know ourselves, our inner workings, thoughts and feelings. getting to know our deepest desires and not shying away from our deepest fears. Taking the time and spending the energy on getting to know ourselves, as we would an infatuation - this is how we honour the Self as the first step on the Self-Love journey.

Why Prioritizing Yourself is “good-Selfish”

One of the most common misconceptions is that putting yourself first is selfish. However, the truth is that prioritizing self-love enhances your capacity to give to others. Think of it this way: you can’t pour from an empty cup. When you’re depleted, exhausted, or disconnected from your true self, you’re unable to show up fully for those around you. When you haven’t spent time getting to know what you want, what you need, what you have to give; you won’t have resources to give. Your giving will be empty.

By filling your own cup first, you’re ensuring that you have the energy, love, and compassion to share with others. Prioritizing your own needs doesn’t take away from others—it actually strengthens your ability to support them.

The Cost of Neglecting Self-Love

When we neglect self-love, we often find ourselves in cycles of burnout, self-criticism, and chronic stress. I have tested this theory. My big mission in life is Self-Love and sharing the power of it, so of course that means that self-love is my Achilles heel. I have committed the worst hate crimes against my inner Self and I know the consequences of this first hand.

Without taking time to nurture ourselves, we may struggle with feelings of unworthiness, comparison, and a constant need for approval from others. This puts the power outside of ourselves. It leaves us in a state of victimhood, which over time can lead to a loss of identity. We begin to define ourselves by external accomplishments or how others perceive us, rather than by our own intrinsic value. When self-love is absent, it becomes easier to settle for less than we deserve—whether that’s in relationships, career choices, or the way we treat ourselves on a daily basis.

How to Start Prioritizing Self-Love Today

1. Get to know yourself - Self-Knowledge is a super power
   You’re worth getting to know. You’ve got you for the rest of your life - you might as well know what you’re dealing with. Not only that, you might even LOVE what you find.

2. Practice Self-Compassion and Self-Acceptance
   Listen to that harsh inner critic. Thank them and ask them to step aside and keep their judgements to themselves. You might have to do this a few (hundred) times a day to start with. Instead of beating yourself up for mistakes or imperfections, practice self-compassion. Speak to yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a close friend.

3. Set Healthy Boundaries:
   Learning to say no is a powerful form of self-love. By setting boundaries, you protect your energy and ensure that you’re not overextending yourself to please others at the cost of your well-being.

4. Make Time for Rest and Rejuvenation:
   Self-love involves taking care of your body and mind. Rest when you need to, and don’t feel guilty about prioritizing downtime. Rest isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity. I know that I struggle with this and so often, my body get sick to help me to stop. I am learning to prioritize my own rest and rejuvenation and enjoy the benefits of this.

5. Celebrate Your Wins, Big or Small:
   This one can be tough for so many of us. I discovered through my journey that I was so good at dishing out praise to others but I found that I have a tendency to sweep past my achievements in my rush to set the next goal. Acknowledging our achievements, no matter how small they may seem, is really a really healthy practice. By celebrating yourself, you reinforce your own value and remind yourself that you are worthy of recognition.

6. Listen to Your Inner Voice:
   Take time to reflect on what truly matters to you. What brings you joy? What makes you feel alive? When you’re in tune with your own desires and values, you make choices that align with your authentic self.

7. Lead yourself
   Live according the all these Self-Love foundations and you will find yourself stepping up and leading - first yourself and then others. Not because you crave power but because you will start to represent something - your Self and your values. This kind of self respect cannot be ignored. This is where authentic power is nurtured.

The Impact of the Self-Love Revolution

The Self-Love Revolution is about reclaiming your power and choosing to live from a place of authenticity and self-respect. It’s about challenging the societal norms that tell us to always put others first, and instead, learning to prioritize our own well-being without guilt or apology.

When you commit to self-love, you transform not only your life but also the lives of those around you. You become an example of what it means to live with confidence, purpose, and fulfillment. You inspire others to do the same.

This revolution isn’t about escaping life’s challenges or avoiding hard work—it’s about facing them with a full heart, a strong mind, and a deep belief in your own worth. When you prioritize self-love, you lead yourself with grace, strength, and authenticity.

A Call to Action: Join the Self-Love Revolution

The time to prioritize yourself is now. The world needs more people who are fully aligned with their own truth, who lead with love and courage. You deserve to be one of them.

Take the first step today. Commit to making self-love a non-negotiable part of your life. Not just in theory, but in action. Because when you love yourself fully, you unlock a life of deeper joy, purpose, and connection.

Welcome to the Self-Love Revolution. You belong here.